my pita ji wasn't even given a rupiya in property due to the greed of his 3 brothers and 2 sisters and they also kept humiliating my mom side and nana to an extent that is way too low given how helpful and obliging my nana was to them. should my baap really be keeping in touch in them? seriously they didn't even let my baap meet dada before he was dying in fear that he might not leave some will to my baap but man, these people are just too vile and lowly. like its way too shameful to tell what kind of shit they put my parents to. they thought my parents would never make it and have their own stuff but now they know we are above them they keep in touch with us but still they show they subtle neech behaviour time to time by complaining how we give less shagun or blah blah we didn't call them bajillion time for my brother's wedding while those sisters didn't even pick up call even once and when they did they say my baap doesn't do visit and all bullshit reaosn to not come to my brother's wedding. seriously only one brother of my baap was at his wedding.
If all father's side are bad then who is actually innocent,?
I've heard way too many stories of evil in father's side but why is it so rampant? Everyone is evil then who isn't?
>>178673
unironically all are bad to us, my baap didn't even ask for his share until one of chacha's son called my baap drunk one day that my baap says he didn't get share.
>>178667
Lineage is patriarchal.
No matter how evil they, remember that you share the same blood as them. The title, the clan and all aren't taken to be granted.
They are your cousins and uncles.
They will be the one coming to save you when you are at your lowest.
>>178692
So is rivalry though, if i had any sibling i would see him as a rival, same with cousins and stuff. I think caring about extended family is silly. Just form your own circle based on mutual trust and utility.
>>178694
I regret not making bonds with my cousins and all.
They are the one closest to you. Always been like this.
They mmay not be there on good happenings, but they are the first one to come when something bad happens.
>>178692
you are wrong, we are almost no contact with them unless there is a birth, ceremony, wedding which is mostly over now as i am youngest in them and what saving ass you bhangi? we are not gaon chamar, they would be first one to celebrate my baap's death.
>>178707
>>178713
You are retarded.
((They)) want you to hate your clan. Weak clan leads to all the bad things.
Where are pandavs and kauravas? They ruined it for their own clan by infighting.
Those who betray their own clan are destined to meet their doom.
I won't argue any further.
>>178718
No u haven't seen malice as dark as one's spewed by your "clan" that's the most vicious kind. It's great that u did not see that and have such naive optimism pls be like that forever pyaare.
>>178718
you are delusional. try being among those who pull your leg at every step and treat you as their inferiors.
clan literally means nothing in modern age. there are much more people we know that are more useful than them and many of them are from other castes too.
>Where are pandavs and kauravas
on your mouth
>your clan
nobody knows it except your illusion
>>178723
exactly, try being in those times when 7 couples live in a same building and there is shitflinging on a daily basis for even basic things like who will wash the utensils and who will cook food. since my father was youngest, he didn't even get proper food after a certain time and he even had to give his earnings to brothers and parents as they got him "married" as an ehsaan. my nana got humiliated, he was a good man and now he is no more sadly. pretty much all we have is because my nana supported my maa baap from giving basic ration to helping in investing whatever my parents earned otherwise i would be living in a rented 2bhk shithouse somewhere in south haryana in a lower middle class household full of kalesh and shit.
>>178734
there is nothing glorious about joint families even if there is good relation between brothers. it just plagues your mind and locks you in your room. people can't discuss shit. can't do shit properly, a lot of things. i don't think a lot of you jeets are that much aspirational which makes you like dehati joint family's "chehel pehel and shor sharaba"
>>178713
>pandavs literally killed kauravs
Not that anyone cares, but it was a lot more complicated than that. Everyone was killing everyone really. Kaurava also also killed sleeping children just to secure victory etc. Besides its not like entire bloodline died during the war, some lived and continued, its just no one kept traced what happened past 10 generations from it broadly.
>>178718
I disagree with this on notion that the Kaurav and Pandava were their own legitimate clans at that point. There were other factions besides the main ruling famiky.
It works like this
>Be son of king>Your brothers are lesser dukes>Your father is king<His brothers are dukes not kings>Be father of king<Your brother are dukes not kings>Be grand father of king<Your brother are dukes not kings>Be great grand father of king<Your brother are dukes not kings>Be great² grand father of king<Your brother are dukes not kings>Be great³ grand father of king<Your brother are dukes not kings
Ever generation you get a distant family that moves furrher and even further away from royalty. The more sons you have, the worse it gets every generation. Even if your ancestor was a king at one point, lets say your dad if you dont rule, whar will second son of the second son of the second son of your second son be? Just an average man with a titke and no titual power.
However loyalty to clan stays, and if both kaurava and pandava did not exist, someone from distant enough would have taken seat with legitimacy eventually. The "they" logic does not hold in this case, but i get what you were going for. War for ascension is normal, unless you are putting it far above survival of empire and the clan itself.
>>178725
>clan literally means nothing in modern age
I will disagree that it means "nothing" but its a shadow of what it meant at one point at best. Most rational thing that you stated, empire is not formed on "my blood" alone, many people i see that agree with a vision that i hold are neither from my clan nor my caste or varna.
Teo people can have sky and earth apart origins and still reach the same conclusion. Finding those who share your belief is far more inportant in life and prioritising clan shoulfmd go only as far as it does not put your well being at risk.
>>178718
Who are
>they
there is no clan in current state for majority
i think the same as you that everyone should stay together but some people are meant to be with you
most families/clan get messed up due to marrying through AM and not picking right groom with same values
while some siblings dont want best for you that is thr truth no matter how much you hate it
you had better family good for you but stop saying that the other person should be with their joint family even if they are shit
i say make a clan get like minded frens it will be tough but it is what it is
Y>>178761
I agree , it a battle for best and will eliminate the dumb naive and weak for betterment of clan and tribe but dont forget the clan is not your only place in modern day
you can go out make better frens than your cousins
