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Will help Meditation ? Yogi abdff2 04/03/2021 (Sat) 10:16:55 3955
I want break free from day dreaming all the time. I want be in control of my thoughts. I want to be able to control my impulses. How to go about it ?
Yogi 4ca48d 04/03/2021 (Sat) 10:49:10 3956
>>3955
Meditation is the way to go.
Yogi 225b83 04/03/2021 (Sat) 14:44:45 3958
>>3955
start with vipasana. the basics:
>find a quiet place to sit for 15 to 20 minutes
>background noises should not be considered hinderances (car horns, sounds of nature, ticking clock, etc.)
>don't wear earplugs
>wear loose, comfortable clothes
>bare feet
>sit with back held straight
>either sit on the floor or in a chair
>keep eyes closed
>if you must move, be aware of why and how you are moving
>do simple in and out breathing
>be mindful of your breathing
>you may feel your breath is too short, long, deep, shallow, etc. but do not try to control it
>breathe with your abdomen/diaphragm and be aware of how you breath
>"watch yourself with your eyes closed"
>restrict your attention to the present
>don't get caught up in past/future
>insight meditation is about getting to know what is happening inside your body, your thoughts, your feelings, etc.
>the aim of vipasana yoga is to know the object itself, not the word
>if a sound (barking dog, car horn, microwave) pulls your attention away, think of it as "hearing" not as the specific sound
>if a sensation arises think of it as "pain" or "feeling" instead of "knee pain" or "elbow hurts"
>if a fragrance enters your nose, don't try to identify it, just identify that you are "smelling"
>"focus and forget" "know and let go"
Yogi abdff2 04/03/2021 (Sat) 16:30:39 3963
>>3958
Thanks anon
Yogi 636a77 04/03/2021 (Sat) 19:14:10 3964
>>3955
I also have an unhealthy addiction of daydreaming. But I don't want it to go away. That's the only world where I can escape my mediocrity and autism and be a little happy.
Not to discourage you from getting rid of it. Do meditation. Sleep as soon as your head hits the pillow.
Quick help Yogi 7006a2 04/03/2021 (Sat) 07:44:23 3952
Frens, while doing dumbbell rows, do I have to work with one arm only? Won't this cause bicep imbalance in one arm? I'm doing as seen by thinking as if a rope is pulling your elbow with correct posture.
Yogi 9b2432 04/03/2021 (Sat) 14:45:45 3959
>>3952
well yes, it would cause an imbalance if you only train the one arm, ideally you'd hit the other arm afterwards
Yogi 53e7d0 04/03/2021 (Sat) 14:53:18 3960
>>3959
Kek. Thanks bhaiya. So I have to do even sets like 2 or 4?
Yogi 9b2432 04/03/2021 (Sat) 15:25:49 3961
>>3960
uh no
so a standard dumbbell row exercise would be 3 sets of 10 reps with whatever weight you're comfortable with.
so you'd do 10 on right arm then 10 on left arm. that's one 1 set.
repeat two more times for a total of 3 sets.
Yogi 53e7d0 04/03/2021 (Sat) 16:03:33 3962
>>3961
I see. Thank you again bhaiya. UwU. *Geeli pappi*
Yogi 1559d9 04/03/2021 (Sat) 14:11:00 3957
Just coomed after 6 days of nofap. Haven't done nofap for a year. I don't even always remember the time i last coomed making it impossible to start a nofap but last sunday i coomed hard and decided to start no fap from monday as i went to work. Too bad 30 mins ago i busted a nut to porn, now my head hurts and i feel empty/miserable for some reason. Will eat a paracetamol after dinner and go to sleep. Thank you for listening. Good night.
Yogi 04/03/2021 (Sat) 09:38:56 3954
I have not masturbated in a week, not because I'm restraining from it, but because of my inability to do so from the conventional stroking method.
Yogi 25127c 04/01/2021 (Thu) 17:46:13 3936
How do I consume black coffee before workout in summers? My trainer said to drink it before coming to gym
>Inb4 trainer bad
I'm noob and don't know shit.
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Yogi 9e51f7 04/02/2021 (Fri) 07:40:31 3938
>>3936
yes do it. it's supposed to burn more calories for the same amount of exercise. and don't worry about the taste, you will acquire taste for it eventually
Yogi 426010 04/02/2021 (Fri) 09:22:21 3939
>>3936
You should take 3-5 mg of caffeine per kg bodyweight. Like, I weigh 94kg so I take 470mg of caffeine pre workout. Add sugar or don't, it's upto you. And take it 45-60 mins before workout.
Yogi 426010 04/02/2021 (Fri) 09:24:13 3940
>>3939
>>3936
On second though, try avoiding sugar and if you workout in evening then don't take it.
Yogi 81e39a 04/02/2021 (Fri) 18:12:34 3948
>>3938
>>3939
>>3940
Taste isn't a problem lol. The problem is it's hot and unbreakable to drink to boiled water in summers. Can I drink it ice cold?
Yogi e8b0f8 04/03/2021 (Sat) 08:58:52 3953
Just consumed 5 grams of caffeine before workout via black coffee. Bahahahahaahha
anon 2b6813 03/30/2021 (Tue) 19:25:04 3915
Why aren't you learning MMA Anon?
Yogi 06cd0e 03/31/2021 (Wed) 04:26:26 3929
>>3916
bhai tu rasta bhatak gaya hai
Yogi f4aced 03/31/2021 (Wed) 18:24:48 3933
>>3915
>chose Sean 1 malley of all whole ufc roster
Motivation for abstinence Yogi 9bdedc 03/30/2021 (Tue) 02:20:20 3899
Hey /yoga/bros,

I've been experiencing a crisis lately that's been destroying my mental health, and I need advice on how to solve it.

I turned twenty a few months ago, and for my whole life, even throughout my teenage years, I was always dedicated to the idea of saving myself for marriage and abstaining from premarital sex. I always had the romantic/wholesome ideal of committing yourself to one person for your whole life, with sex being a sacred bond with only one other individual.

Until the past couple years, I didn't have any problems or insecurities with this. But probably due to spending too much time on websites like Reddit and 4chan—where "virgin" is used as an insult synonymously with "incel" (i.e. the implication is that if you haven't had sex, it's because you can't, and "saving yourself for marriage" is just cope)—and probably also due to a rise in my testosterone levels caused by a better diet and more exercise, I've recently found myself more and more tempted to lose my virginity before marriage. And even if I manage to withstand the temptation for some time, I'll realistically only end up getting married around 25 or later after I finish my PhD, so that's a whole five years during which I have to resist the temptation. Things were much easier in the olden days when people got married early.

The problem is compounded by the fact that it would be very easy for me to lose my virginity: I'm decently well-off financially and know how to find high-quality "escorts" here at a good price. Basically, if I end up deciding to lose my virginity before marriage I could make a quick phone call and do so within one week. An escort would be my preferred way to lose my virginity outside of marriage (convenient, controlled, no BS "dating", no pretense of a deeper connection), but even if I didn't want to go the escort route, I live in a very liberal city so I could probably find some BLM supporting white girl to lose my virginity to.

So basically, it's getting more and more difficult for me to convince myself to resist the temptation of having sex with some local girl instead of saving myself for an Indian tradwife. And the other thing is, do Indian girls even value male virginity anymore? Obviously most conservative-minded Indians value female virginity, but I've never really heard people complaining about male promiscuity. What if I go through all this suffering of not having sex, only to end up marrying a girl who doesn't even care about that in the first place? Or even worse, what if conservative Indian girls have become so westernized that they might even view my virginity as a bad thing?

There are too many thoughts going around in my head and I'm in one of the most confused periods of my life right now. I need some advice.

Is there any way to motivate myself to remain brahmacharin? Or should I just give up and lose my virginity to get rid of those insecurities? Or would losing my virginity just make me even more tempted to keep having sex outside of marriage and turn me into a degenerate coomer? And is it even considered a good thing for men to save themselves for marriage in the eyes of traditional Indian girls?
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Yogi 9bdedc 03/30/2021 (Tue) 23:51:58 3920
>>3919
*specifically, a virgin girl. That's something I'm pretty certain about, I definitely want to marry a virgin.
Yogi 431184 03/31/2021 (Wed) 00:21:51 3921
>>3899
>>3919
alright so your first mistake is caring what fucking reddit thinks so go ahead and stop doing that.
second, never let anybody ever let define your values for you. maybe your ideas on staying a virgin were built on shaky grounds, but you completely internalizing and accepting what redditers think about virgins is a sign of a bad trait. you're quick to give credence to insults, which tells me there is some level of insecurity to your character. this isn't me trying to insult you, everyone deals with insecurities and being comfortable for who they are throughout their life, and knowing this means you can better address and overcome whatever may be making you insecure.
going through your options... you're right. you're living in the age of whoredom, sex is cheap and easy to get, it is quite literally a swipe away in some cases. but we're not talking about just sex here, we're talking about a part of your relationship that you value. and you recognizing you're aging isn't bad, but don't get too caught up. you're 20, which is young. you're obviously not a retard because you plans for graduate education, and you're smart enough to recognize that dating gets harder as you age. but again, you're young, and age isn't the same for men and women. men usually date and marry younger women, so don't think it's over just because you don't see yourself being able to marry until you're 25.
if you're aiming for more traditional girls, nowadays, yes they do care. we're living in a hypersexualized society where women are the primary target. that means if you do meet a conservative girl, she's conservative because she really cares about this kind of stuff. if you abstain from degenerate behavior to any degree, it makes a difference. for most girls, I would say it's never going to be a dealbreaker the same way guys great girls' virginity. it's a double standard, but it is what it is.
also, if you're looking for a conservative girl, she's going to be hard to find on your own. they're virtually nonexistent in universities (if you find one, never let her go!) which means you'll likely have to rely on matchmaking, but luckily you're indian and it's one of the few cultures that hasn't abandoned arranging marriages. being able to say you haven't been in any prior relationships looks good when this matchmaking shit occurs.
my personal opinion: don't be a hypocrite. don't demand behavior from your partner that you yourself wont' engage in. don't judge your partner on something you don't want to be judged on. if you want her to be a virgin, then you should try to be one too. if you don't think you have the mental willpower to remain a virgin until marriage, then don't expect your future wife to stay a virgin until she meets you.
Yogi 9bdedc 03/31/2021 (Wed) 02:55:17 3927
>>3921
Thanks man, reading this was helpful.
>if you do meet a conservative girl, she's conservative because she really cares about this kind of stuff
That logic makes sense, I guess that is a good reason to stay a virgin. Deep down I know that staying a virgin would be the right thing to do.
I think some small part of me will always be tempted because as you said, for most girls my non-virginity wouldn't be a dealbreaker even if they'd prefer me to be virgin. Meaning if I lost my virginity before marriage, the only consequence would be lower self-esteem because I've broken my moral code, as well as slightly lower chances of getting married to a trad girl. But I've got to take the high road and not be a hypocrite.
>you'll likely have to rely on matchmaking
Yeah, my current plan is either one of those marriage sites like Shaadi.com or some specialized matchmaker. I still try to interact with girls around me at my university but I basically treat them the same way as I treat men, none of them are potential partners.
Yogi 431184 03/31/2021 (Wed) 03:01:28 3928
>>3927
to expand on your last part, definitely don't go cocoon mode, you have a plan for the future but the future is always uncertain. stay out there. you can go on dates with girls without getting sexually involved. there's nothing wrong with going on a coffee date or a movie date or even grabbing lunch with someone to get to know them better. that could end up being part of your networking too, i've had past female friends set up me with girls they knew because they thought we'd be a good match. stay out there and stay involved, don't shun the world because you have a solid way to go about an arranged marriage. i really don't think cocoon mode is good for anybody except guys who are at the bottom of the bottom and have no job, no money, no looks, no social skills, etc. for everyone else cocoon mode just brings in more negatives.
best of luck, and remember to not let virgin be an insult that gets to you. it's like when weaklings call gymbros meatheads. it's only an insult because they're full of resentment and hate over their own lives, so they try to take something you value and demean it. you can always revaluate yourself, but that's your decision to make, not anyone else's.
Yogi 28b315 03/31/2021 (Wed) 13:45:09 3932
>>3899
Chastity will always be valued in the Indian culture
Yogi ab1bf4 03/31/2021 (Wed) 02:41:56 3925
I have slow metabolism, what do?
Yogi d18ea2 03/31/2021 (Wed) 02:42:43 3926
>>3925
what are your goals?
Yogi 488ac7 03/31/2021 (Wed) 06:46:32 3930
>>3925
I'm currently doing full body hypertrophy muscle training 3xweek and hiit 3xweek for fat loss and muscle gain. I weigh 94 kg and 5'10.
Yogi 2e4487 03/31/2021 (Wed) 10:46:12 3931
Yogi c36802 03/30/2021 (Tue) 07:52:25 3909
How do I get some clenbuterol here?
Yogi cc808a 03/31/2021 (Wed) 02:18:57 3924
>>3909
watch coach greg's video
Your board is now my Blog Yogi 6bce4a 03/28/2021 (Sun) 07:57:33 3881
Starting from today.
Anyone who wants to join the journey are welcome
Did one before, went through like 80 odd days
have been trying again for a while and will start from today.
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Yogi faf45e 03/29/2021 (Mon) 20:21:49 3896
>>3881
i get frequent wet dreams, i wanna try so hard anon.
but the wet dreams are the worst part, how do i avoid that.
Yogi ce4cab 03/30/2021 (Tue) 00:31:17 3897
>>3896
don't beat yourself up over wet dreams
but they're related to some sort of sexual anxiety you're facing in real life. is there a girl that you're particularly infatuated with? do you fear interactions with women? try some vipasana meditation to get to the root of the issue
Yogi 25e234 03/30/2021 (Tue) 01:49:45 3898
Yogi faf45e 03/31/2021 (Wed) 01:32:59 3922
>>3897
yea there is a girl i am extremely infactuated with, so much so just talking to her gives me massive erections, and i have dreamt of fucking her. I am sure it has a lot to do with it, I am gonna do my best to avoid being around her.
Yogi ce4cab 03/31/2021 (Wed) 01:50:20 3923
>>3922
temporary fix, because you will inevitably become infatuated with another girl and you will again have feelings you can't control, leading you down the same path all over again.
focus on controlling your mental state and emotions whether she is or isn't around.
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